While you may be led to believe that only couples in their middle age find that a once passionate marriage has gone almost platonic, even younger couples find that the romance has gone stale. This usually relates to their almost non-existent sex lives, and although they still love each other deeply, the sex has gone stale. Are you looking for ways to rekindle the passion in your relationship? Here are some fun ways to get the hormones flowing once again.
The Element of Surprise
While you don’t want to overdo the shock value, you might want to consider stepping out of your expected role. Are you usually the partner who avoids being the initiator? This is often the woman who is stereotypically the pursued, rather than the pursuer. One night, why not step into the role of initiator? Use the element of surprise to your advantage.
Nothing stimulates the sex drive more than an unexpectedly revealing and oh-so-sexy negligee, and if you want to go full steam ahead, you can leave the gown behind. Why not order a few breast pasties by Pastease and a revealing G-string to walk into the bedroom with one night? Warning! You might not want to use this technique if your husband has a heart condition. Remember, it’s supposed to be fun, not a medical emergency!
Make Time for Your Partner Alone
Hey guys, how many nights a week do you bring work home from the office or go out for a quick game of pool with the guys? Maybe you have a regular ‘guy’s night out’ which your wife has come to expect. One night, why not pretend to be getting ready for your evening out but instead you would be in the bedroom setting the mood. Get out those fresh flowers you smuggled in that evening, light a few candles, and put on some very soft mood music. Maybe the tune you used as a backdrop when you proposed?
Call in the wife to help with a collar or some other lame excuse for needing her in the room. Not only will this be using that element of surprise mentioned above, but she will be so unexpectedly delighted that you are leaving the guys behind just to spend time with your wife. Showing her that she is the most important part of your life does wonders for the sex life. Remember, women are built differently. To them, passion is ignited by intimacy and connection, so use that to help rekindle those dying embers.
Make It Fun – Not an Obligation!
In the end, it pays to understand that physical intimacy (even in marriage) is not an obligation. It should be fun and something both partners want and need. Make it fun and exciting. If your partner feels like you are just fulfilling an obligation, you are likely to get the old standby ‘headache’ or ‘too tired from the office’ excuses.
If you are looking to rekindle a tired romance, keep it light and playful. Hold hands unexpectedly while out shopping or put your arm around him/her when watching your favorite evening television show. Any little unexpected form of endearment can set the mood. Now it’s up to you what you do with it.